Remember when you and your partner started dating? It was really difficult to keep your hands off each other. You wanted her and she wanted you. That felt so good. It was awesome.
After marriage, and particularly after having kids, things have a way of changing. You are still ready to go every night, but she’s not. What happened? You feel like you rarely have sex anymore and when you do it feels like she’s doing you a favor.
You work out, you look good, but it doesn’t make a difference. You’re lost. Couples counseling might be something to consider for deeper insight. However, these are a few reasons from Manforce Condoms that will help you understand why she doesn’t want to have sex and show you what to do.
While men feel more connected to their partners by having sex, women need to connect first. You may have talked with her about daily logistics or superficial things. She needs more. She wants to be seen, heard, and known. This disconnect causes her loneliness. It’s like she’s trapped in a dungeon alone. You need to free her.
Manforce Tip: Talk to her about her. Find out how she is feeling, her insecurities, fears, and struggles. Also share how you are feeling. Look at her–no distractions. Get tunnel vision on her. “Clear the mechanism.”
“Affirm her. She needs to feel your passion for her in your words, body language and eyes.”
Her body has changed since after marriage or having kids. She knows it and she probably thinks about it all the time, constantly comparing herself to other women. Even if she returns to her former body, she will keep comparing – desperate for affirmation. The best place she can get it is from you.
Manforce Tip: Tell her she’s sexy and why—particularly when she makes a negative comment about herself. When you get home from work, greet her with a long hug and kiss before you greet the kids. Look into her eyes and don’t be in a hurry to look away. When you’re out, direct your eyes to her rather than other places. Give her a look that communicates, in a room full of people, she’s the only one you want to talk to.
Studies show that over the course of a relationship, a woman’s desire for sex decreases while her desire for tenderness increases. The problem is that men’s desire for sex stays just as high as always. Even at its highest state, her appetite might not have been as high as yours and probably never will be.
Manforce Tip: Recognize this reality and be patient with her. Reach out to her with physical and emotional tenderness. That’s what she wants and needs. Try to meet her needs before your own. You can also try our various flavoured condoms to spice up your lovemaking.
For women marriage and motherhood is exhausting, emotionally draining and stressful. Once again, depending on the depth of her anxiety and/or depression you may want to seek counseling.
Manforce Tip: Give her some rest. Take the kids out for a day, run some errands for her, or clean the house. If she is stressed or depressed, rub her shoulders without her asking you. Give her a foot or full body massage. Tell her to kick back and relax. Give her music to listen to and light some candles. Take her tension away.
Understanding when your partner doesn’t want to have sex is an important step in your relationship. Just because she says no doesn’t mean she has stopped loving you. Follow these tips and become the man of her dreams.
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