Its OK to Ask Questions
Studies show that a lot of damage done because people don’t know how to ask for what they want, or don’t think it’s OK (especially in bed). Not asking for what you want means you’ll eventually resent somebody, and that leads to a lot of strife. Here are a few hints, from Manforce – the best condoms brand in India, about how to ask for what you want.
The Importance of Wanting
If you don’t know what you want, you’ll have trouble getting it and experience a life-long feeling of deprivation, disappointment, scarcity, and resentment. When you aren’t able to express what you want clearly you’ll have difficulty feeling generous about your partner’s wants and needs.
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In your relationship, asking for what you want in a helpful, non-threatening way helps both you and your partner understand each other. If you don’t know what you want, you won’t realize if you achieve it. If you don’t know what your partner wants, you can wind up with a false or one-sided solution that will leave one or both of you feeling unsatisfied, overpowered, or manipulated.
Difference Between Wanting and Demanding
Much of the confusion about expressing wants occurs because no distinction is made between wanting and demanding. Stating what you want is an effort to communicate clearly, so you and your partner can both be satisfied, while demanding is insisting that your partner give you what you want, without regard for her wants and feelings.
You can tell the difference because when you are asking, you can handle getting a no answer; when you are demanding, you get upset if what you’re asking for is denied. When you ask for what you want, you need to have a back-up plan in case the other person doesn’t agree.
The Importance of Knowing What you Want
You may be wondering why being clear about what you want is getting so much emphasis here. Many people have serious trouble knowing what they want, feeling comfortable communicating it, and stating it clearly. Many people have difficulty solving problems because they do not know what they want, or, if they do know, cannot express it effectively to someone else.
Getting comfortable with communicating about sex may translate to benefits in the bedroom — especially if the lines of communication are open during the act. New research showed that comfort with sexual communication is directly linked to sexual satisfaction.
For instance, a woman in a long-term relationship might be uncomfortable with sex with no protection but might put up with it to please her partner. Talk to your partner, and if that’s the case, try our variety of condoms, available in the online store, to put her at ease and for you to enjoy the lovemaking.
So ask your partner what she likes and doesn’t like. You should also be able to tell what your preferences are. This will lead to a more satisfying time in bed.